“Online dating is just as murky and full of lemons as finding a used car in the classifieds. Once you learn the lingo, it’s easier to spot the models with high mileage and no warranty.”
Online dating these past few months has been an interesting experience. I have met some really great people, and some really terrible people. I have also learned a lot about myself, and what I bring to the table; most importantly, what I am, and am not looking for.
Admittedly, I have a terrible track record. I have not made the best choices in relationships, and have ended up in some not so great situations. We live and learn… boy have I learned. Now, I am starting to realize that I deserve to be treated with respect and I choose to spend my time with those that feel the same. However, sometimes, someone sneaks through the cracks.
For example: Last Friday I had coffee with a great guy. He was younger then I usually like, but he was sweet, so I figured I would meet him and see what happened. He seemed like a great guy, I really enjoyed our time together. As we were leaving, we decided that we would see each other on Monday after work. We had planned to have dinner and watch Forensic Files. Sounds like the perfect date, right?
I messaged him Monday afternoon to see if we were still on. I was a little under the weather but since it was a low key night, I was still game. He confirmed, saying that he would call me at 5pm to coordinate details. Ok, great. I started to get ready, and 5 o’clock rolls around, 5:30, 6:00… ok, now I am annoyed. At 6:45pm I get a message saying “How are you?” Really? That’s what you come up with?
Now I should explain, girls don’t like to be kept waiting. Especially if they are dressed and ready to go. I understand that things comes up, I really do, but communicate! In this case, nothing came up. He apparently just didn’t think it was important enough to pay attention too. Old me, would have just dismissed it and went on with the date. Now? No way. I laid into him good. He should be respectful of people’s time, and I let him know it. Needless to say, I did not go through with the date, and I am fairly certain that I won’t hear from him again. His loss.
Dating is hard, and it is important that women (including me!) know their worth and don’t stand for bull shit. Stand up for yourself and demand that you be treated respectfully. You deserve it, we all do.