“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
I have had to deal with low self-esteem issues since I was an early teen. I was anorexic for a good part of high school because I was disgusted with the way I looked. I felt unworthy of attention, yet it was something I craved. There was no affection anywhere in my life, I was alone yet surrounded by people. Looking back, I was wrong, I was beautiful. I just wish I had known better. Life might have been different.
Now, I am older, and a curvy girl. The self-esteem was not getting any better, in fact, it was getting worse. Every time I looked in the mirror I just wanted to cry. Losing weight is difficult because of the bipolar meds and the PCOS. Another thing to add to the list of things that make me feel bad about myself. Then 2018 happened and everything changed.
I broke up with a long term boyfriend and entered the world of dating. I started dating this wonderful man. Like really wonderful. Wow. We dated for about 6 months and it was a wonderful time. He was so loving and affectionate. He was always playing with my hair (hint to guys, do this, girls love it), holding my hand, and telling me how beautiful I was. Beautiful? Eh, not really sure about that one, but it was nice to hear.
Overtime, and very slowly, he calmed me down. I know longer jumped when he touched me. (If a man was ever physical with you, you understand) he would put his hand on my tummy (my least favorite part of my body) and tell me over and over I was beautiful and worthy of love. Eventually, my thought process started to change. Now to be clear, he didn’t change me, he helped me change myself.
Since moving on from that relationship, I have kept the momentum going. If someone tells me I’m beautiful, or gives me another compliment, instead of brushing it off with a “No, I am really not” I just say thank you. I say thank you and take is as sincere. It was hard at first, but it is getting easier.
This is not an overnight fix, but I probably feel more confident about myself than I ever have. I am beautiful, and I figure if I say it enough times it will stick. I am also awesome, and I am not afraid to tell everyone (I am very modest).
I want to say thank you. Thank you to the people in my life that put up with my low self-esteem for so long. Thank you for those who took the time to help me feel better about myself, and most of all, thank you to myself for being open to this change.
Here’s to ongoing progress, and acceptance of myself.